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Asking Eric: Parents ashamed of children who won’t ‘adult’
Dear Eric: I grew up with highly educated parents, with a strong work ethic. Because of my and my also well-educated and accomplished husband’s many years of hard work, we have been able to provide well for our children. Unfortunately, all of them have had health difficulties from birth, and instead of growing and recovering, they each ...Read more
Money, Marriage and Mistrust
Dear Annie: I've been married for 16 years, and lately, I'm not sure I want to stay in this marriage.
I've always been the steady one -- the saver, the planner, the person who makes sure the bills get paid and there's something set aside for the future. My wife, on the other hand, has always been more impulsive when it comes to money. Over ...Read more

Ask Anna: Love after baby -- Mother's Day advice for exhausted new parents
Dear Anna,
My husband and I welcomed our beautiful daughter six months ago, and while we're absolutely in love with her, I feel like my husband and I are just ships passing in the night. Between diaper changes, feedings and sleep deprivation, our relationship has taken a backseat. Date nights seem like a distant memory, and when we do have a ...Read more

Asking Eric: Daughter’s volatile responses make relationship difficult
Dear Eric: My 35-year-old daughter “Mary” and I were very close in her early 20s, after she emerged from troubled teen years of substance abuse and self-destructive behaviors. She continues to stay clean and sober, with a successful career.
But several years ago, things went sideways between us. Everything I said made her angry. I’m ...Read more
Compatibility Versus Connection
Dear Annie: I'm in my early 30s and have been dating someone for nearly two years. On paper, he is everything my parents could have hoped for. He has a stable career; he is kind, respectful, family-oriented and well-liked by everyone. My friends and family think I have hit the jackpot.
The problem is, I am not sure I feel the kind of deep ...Read more

Asking Eric: Mother struggles to accommodate daughter’s veganism
Dear Eric: When my daughter married 25 years ago, both she and her husband decided to go vegan. My husband and I respected and fully supported them. After all, we had raised her on meals cooked from scratch out of natural ingredients and saw veganism as a move in an even purer direction.
Sure, it was hard to ditch the turkey at Thanksgiving and...Read more
When to Hold On, When to Move On
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been together for 13 years and married for 10. We've always had what I believed was a stable, loving relationship. In all that time, we've only had a handful of arguments -- certainly nothing major or frequent.
But recently, during a heated disagreement, he said something that completely shattered me. In the ...Read more

Asking Eric: Sibling took inheritance, now she wants sister to carry a child for her
Dear Eric: I am in a predicament with my older sister. My mother passed away a few years ago, before getting her assets in order. This resulted in my sister gaining access to the majority of my mother's assets. My sister has lived in the family home for much of her life, most recently since 2010. She feels it is hers, but she has never had a ...Read more
Letting Go for Good
Dear Annie: I'm a 57-year-old woman, and I've been in an off-and-on relationship for nearly 11 years with a man who is 30. Yes, there's a big age gap, but in the beginning, it felt like we truly connected. We got married, and for a while, I thought we had something special.
But over the years, he's developed a pattern: he leaves -- sometimes ...Read more

Asking Eric: Husband’s long-ago one-night stand has returned
Dear Eric: I'm not sure how to feel. I have been married for 37 years. About 43 years ago my husband (who was not my husband then) had a one-night hookup. The woman is now with my husband's brother. It is very uncomfortable and awkward for him and me.
I don't feel right being in the same room with her. We have decided not to attend family ...Read more
Looking for Love Later in Life
Dear Annie: I'm a retired, divorced man who had a fulfilling career, but I now struggle to find female companionship. I was mostly focused on my career and got married in my mid-40s, partly out of loneliness, and together we have a daughter in her 20s. Looking back, I don't think I was ever truly in love with my ex-wife. Still, I've never ...Read more

Asking Eric: Husband not invited to event after his father’s passing
Dear Eric: I have been married nearly 35 years. We and my husband’s family all live a few blocks from each other.
My husband’s father passed away a year ago. My husband coordinated a family outing to the beach for Father’s Day. We found out that his brother hosted his mother and sister for a barbecue down the block after the gathering. We...Read more
Protecting Son's Resting Place
Dear Annie: The town I live in is trying to cut expenses by having amateurs handle the mowing and weed-whacking at our local cemetery. Last year, the professional landscapers left gouge marks on the lower stone of my son's grave. We were charged for perpetual care when he was buried, so I was upset by this.
Now, I'm even more concerned. The ...Read more

Asking Eric: Husband always in locked bathroom
Dear Eric: This is probably an odd question. A very large percentage of the time, more than 50 percent, when I come home from being out (lunch/shopping/whatever), my husband is in the restroom. The powder room is right next to his office and sometimes I’ve tried to open the door, and it’s locked, which seems odd since he’s the only one in ...Read more
Not the Office Punch Line
Dear Annie: I'm in a strange situation with my co-worker, "Jordan." We've worked together for three years and have always had a friendly, joking rapport. Lately, though, his comments have crossed a line -- not inappropriate in a HR sense, but overly personal. He teases me about being single, makes remarks about how "picky" I must be and once ...Read more
Single File: What If or As If?
Years ago, during my single-mom-and-widow phase, fear was very much the biggest part of my emotional baggage. A whole family of what-ifs would wake me in the middle of the night and start droning their litany of fear. What if my son never again has a father? What if I get sick and can't care for him? What if that nice man I just met doesn't call...Read more

Straight talk on the small (but often stressful) stuff
Whether you're navigating first-date logistics or attempting to decide dating app behavior, dating today comes with a thousand tiny decisions that can leave you second-guessing.
I get these kinds of questions all the time, so here’s a roundup of real scenarios — with my unfiltered takes — on how to handle them. Spoiler: None of these ...Read more

Ask Anna: How to tell your spouse you want a divorce without getting pulled back in
Dear Anna,
After 12 years of marriage (17 together), I (38F) am ready to end things with my husband (40M). We've had our ups and downs — early struggles when he was unemployed, ongoing imbalance in household responsibilities and communication issues. While I handle most domestic tasks despite earning more, he contributes minimally and seems ...Read more

Asking Eric: Back in her hometown, woman judges friends who stayed behind
Dear Eric: I am a 62-year-old woman who recently relocated to her hometown in the Midwest from the East Coast, after 40 years. I have a wonderful network of friends here, whom I’ve known practically my entire life.
I’m happier than I could have imagined with my decision to move here.
Something that has become apparent is, while I have a ...Read more
Love, Loss, and Showing Up Late
Dear Annie: I formed a close bond with my former daughter-in-law when she married my son. Even after their divorce -- due to his addiction and abuse -- she and the kids lived with us for a while, and we remained close. Over the years, I supported her through abusive relationships, helped care for the children and was always there when she ...Read more