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From the writings of the Rev. Billy Graham

Q: I’ve waited a long time to marry and now I am going to take the step, but I am still scared to death that it will end in failure. I’m also afraid that if I don’t overcome this that the emotion itself will scar the relationship. Is there an answer? I want our lives together to be blessed by God and to build a home that speaks of peace, love, and Christ. – A.M.

A: A young lady was afraid to marry the man she loved for one reason: she was fearful of failure. Her parents had gone through a bitter divorce while she was growing up, and the bickering and darkness were hard to dismiss. More than being afraid of marriage was her fear of a divorce.

After spending time in prayer and talking with others who cared for her future, she came to understand that her parents’ failure didn’t mean she would follow in their footsteps.

When we have prayed about a decision, something as serious as marriage, and believe God has given us peace, we can move forward by faith that He will lead and guide. We must realize that fear can paralyze us and keep us from believing God and stepping out in faith. The devil loves a fearful Christian.

Our emotions can lie to us, and we need to counter our emotions with truth. And the greatest truth – God’s truth – can counteract our fears. “I know the plans I have for you … plans to give you hope and a future” (Jeremiah 29:11, NIV).

Marriage is God’s invention, not ours! And He intends for marriage to be the uniting of man and woman as husband and wife who make Jesus Christ the center of life, together. Sound marriages are also based on mutual respect. The home is a sacred institution. Faith in Christ is the most important of all principles in the building of a happy marriage and a successful home.

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(This column is based on the words and writings of the late Rev. Billy Graham.)

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